When we get all caught up in the daily grind it’s easy to overlook
some basics regarding our personal conduct. There are certain types of
favorable behavior that are not as common as they once were and I think
this is a good time to consider a few of them.
We all know the difference between good manners and rudeness, but
sometimes we can benefit from a little reminder. Hopefully, this list
will reiterate some of the simple things that each of us can do to make the world a more pleasant place.
1. Say please and thank you. Simple,
yet so often overlooked. When you want something, you say please. When
someone does something nice for you, you say thank you. This may sound
like a minor thing, but when you let people know that you appreciate
what they do for you, it helps establish a friendly and respectful
rapport. And guess what, they will see you as likable.
2. Be courteous.
Usually, this is just a matter of seeing things from another person’s
perspective. If you notice something that you can do to make their
situation easier, then do it. And yes, it may require that you go a
little bit out of your way, but how hard is it to hold the door open for
someone or stop your car to let someone cross the street? Kind deeds
have a tendency to repay themselves many times over. It may not happen
right away, but there is still a sense of satisfaction that comes from doing the right thing.
3. Follow the Golden Rule.
Simply stated, treat others the way you would like to be treated. The
beautiful thing about this is how straight forward it is. Think how
different everything would be if everyone followed this simple
principle. There would be no crime, no war, and no murder. Granted, we
cannot control the actions of other people, but we can control how we
behave. When you treat others with this level of respect, they will
naturally view you as likable?
4. Work with others.
There are plenty of opportunities to show cooperation and teamwork in
all areas of life. Whether you are in a crowded store or heavy traffic,
cooperation will make the experience more manageable. If you are driving
a bit slower than some, move to the slow lane and allow others to pass.
If you are grocery shopping, don’t leave your cart in the middle of the
isle. By being aware of those around you and showing consideration you
will be more likable
5. Smile often.
Never underestimate the power of a smile. The effect is two-fold. It
tends to elevate your mood and it lifts the spirits of those you smile
at. If you don’t believe me, try this little experiment. For an entire
day, before you say a word to anyone, smile first. If you’re walking
past them, smile and say hello. Notice their reaction. Most will smile
back and when they do, you will feel even better. When you look at other
people, who do you view as more likable? Isn’t it true that a person
with a smile on their face wins every time?
6. Say I’m sorry.
This is one of the first lessons we learn in life, yet some of us
quickly forget it as we get older. The principle is very simple. If you
wrong someone, or if you make a mistake, or if you hurt another person
(intentionally or unintentionally), apologize for it. Don’t waste your
time trying to assign blame. Be the first one to say I’m sorry and you will instantly be more likable.
7. Be honest.
Tell the truth, even when it doesn’t seem to be in your best interest to
do so. There is a lot to be said for the person who can admit they’re
wrong (see above) and come clean with their mistake. It should also be
noted that telling a lie doesn’t fix anything. The problem or issue is
still there, under the blanket of the lie, and it will stay there until
the truth comes out. Honesty is a reflection of one’s self-dignity and
integrity. By being honest and tactful, other honest people will find you more likable.
8. Listen. Although
it is typically our first instinct to talk first, listening can
actually be an advantage. A primary benefit of listening is the amount
that can be learned. If we spend most of our time talking then how can
we learn anything? One of the best ways to be viewed as more likable is
to be a good listener. It’s not always easy, but listening tells others
that you are genuinely interested in them as a person, and who doesn’t like that?
9. Be complimentary. Have
you ever received an unexpected compliment? How did that make you feel?
Everyone likes to be noticed in a good way. In a world that tends to be
overly critical, a sincere compliment can be very encouraging. Notice I
said a sincere compliment. If our compliments aren’t sincere they could
be viewed as patronizing, so when you compliment make sure that you are
being truthful. This is guaranteed to make you more likable.
10. Laugh. Everyone likes to laugh. Laughing
releases endorphins that make you feel happy and relaxed. Laughing is
both therapeutic and contagious. When you laugh, you will also be
encouraging laughter from others. When you contribute to the happiness
of others, they can’t help liking you. So never underestimate the value
in laughter.
All of these ideas are simple and universally acknowledged. Sadly,
many of them seem to have been forgotten in today’s world. At times, the
pressures or stress in our lives may cause us to show less
consideration or patience for other people. The truth is that every one
of these simple ideas can make a significant contribution to the quality of our life and the lives of others. Along with making us more likable, they actually reduce stress and make life more enjoyable.
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